RESOURCES, CORE BELIEFS, AND FIRST PRINCIPLES
At PTP Coaching, we believe “the basics are the basics and you can’t beat the basics.” Along our journey, we’ve discovered a few “first principles” that hold true, no matter what context you apply them in, and we revisit them often with clients. Below are just a few short introductions to them.
YOU CAN’T MAKE GOOD DECISIONS IF YOU’RE COMPROMISED
We believe self care comes first. If you don’t have the habits and systems in place to make sure your most basic needs are met, then life will be like trying to bail out a leaking boat. You’ll never go anywhere until you plug the holes. A classic staple of anyone interested in the psychology of success and achieving a better quality of life, Maslow’s hierarchy gives a basic outline of the needs humans need to have met in order to live fulfilling, healthy lives. It’s a great framework for understanding what level of need you’re trying to meet at any given time and how much our most basic needs not being met can interfere with our ability to achieve what we really want. Interesting fun fact: your prefrontal cortex, responsible for your higher decision making, empathy, and ability to plan rather than react, shuts down when you’re stressed, tired, or overly emotional, so make sure you take care of those needs first! As a teacher of mine once said “No one is helped by you being off balance.:
THE EISENHOWER MATRIX
Now that you’ve read it, it’s pretty self explanatory, right? The Eisenhower Matrix, developed by President Dwight Eisenhower during his time in the military, is another simple framework for understanding how to the life you’ve been wanting to all this time. Short answer? Move your #2 items up to #1. This is where a lot of growth occurs and fears get faced down. Let’s be honest: you likely haven’t kept your big dreams and desires hidden away because you don’t have the time. It’s because they’re the truest expression of who you are, and dealing with them means dealing with fears of inadequacy, rejection, and uncertainty, so you don’t make time.
YES YOU CAN
Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” Regardless of what you might think of the man, we hold this as a truth to be self-evident. The belief that you are capable, no matter what it is you’re concerned with being capable of, is the critical difference maker between getting where you want to go and staying where you are.
COURAGE OVER CONFIDENCE
Related to the above, it’s easy to spout truisms about belief and confidence all day long, but the truth is: sometimes we don’t have it. We all experience doubt, fear, uncertainty, insecurity, and all of those probably multiple times per day. That’s why we believe that bravery, the courage to act in the face of fear, is the ultimate characteristic of successful people. Bravery creates confidence, not the other way around, so we encourage clients to admit when they’re feeling scared, insecure, and uncertain, then act anyway.
After all, it was Cus D’Amato, coach to a little known fighter by the name of Mike Tyson, who said to his client as he panicked backstage before each and every bout “The hero and the coward both feel the same thing...It's the same thing, fear, but it's what you do with it that matters.”
YOU DON’T HAVE THE TIME, YOU MAKE THE TIME
One of the most common issues people deal with these days is time-drought. It seems like there are always 1000 things to do every day, and it’s hard to do any of them well with some many people asking to much of us, including ourselves.
The truth is, though: Busyness is a choice. It is proof positive of a lack of clear priorities, boundaries, and the self-respect to say no to what is insignificant, trivial, or even in some cases good in the name of pursuing what is great and matters most.
There are, of course, simple strategic hacks to work around time-drought and manage time more effectively, like doing less than you think you can, paying to have the problem solved for you, etc., but ultimately if you find you can’t beat busyness, even with all the time management in the world, you lack clear priorities, and it’s time to fix that.
THAT WHICH YOU MOST FEAR DOING IS THAT WHICH YOU MOST NEED TO DO
Related to the value of bravery above, we all have things in our lives we are afraid to do for one reason or another. It could be saying yes to an opportunity, no to an opportunity, having a difficult conversation, walking away from a job, or any handful of things. Of course, be smart, don’t compromise your life or the lives of those who depend on you, but often the reasons we fear doing something is that we fear rejection and ridicule, either from others or ourselves. In these cases, it’s important to look at the realistic “worst case scenario” of pursuing your considered course of action. What you’ll likely find is that what seems like a “10” on the disaster scale is, in reality, a “2,” and is very recoverable, in which case what are you waiting for?
THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
PTP Coaching has nothing new to say. Most of the great discoveries of self-mastery have been codified elsewhere and better by people far greater than us. While we are here to offer the structure, the support, and the hands-on experience help you apply these principles and more, we wouldn’t be here ourselves if we hadn’t learned them from some of the greats.
Below, you’ll find names of masters and their works that we have utilized and synthesized into our practice. Feel free to pursue your own education on these topics, just like we have.
Tim Ferriss (The Four Hour Workweek, The Four Hour Body, The Four Hour Chef, Tools of Titans, Tribe of Mentors, The Tim Ferriss Show, The Tim Ferriss Experiment, Fear(Less) tim.blog
Tony Robbins (Unleash the Power Within, Awaken the Giant Within, Money:Master the Game, literally hundreds more, tonyrobbins.com)
HH The Dalai Lama (The Art of Happiness)